Are you giving up on your dreams in favour of money?
Are you slogging away at your 9-5 while your dreams die like butterflies in a jar? I hear you.
I’ve always envied the people who can say they love their job. My response when I hear someone say this is usually-
“Wait, let me get this straight, you are in the job of your dreams and you love it?”
I can’t help but be in disbelief when I hear this answer because, I, like many don’t necessarily wake up brimming with excitement to go to work. In fact, most days I spend ten minutes tricking my soul into becoming enthused about something it certainly did not choose.
So why do we chain ourselves to jobs we hate?
One little dirty word- money. Sure, there may be other factors involved preventing you from quitting your job to pursue what your heart really sings for; family, responsibility- debt, but money is generally the scapegoat.
It’s not rocket science, money makes the world go round and without it, we suffer, right? Kind of. I’d like to argue that we suffer both with money and without it. Suffering is part of the human condition; the trick is how to make the inevitable suffering as painless as possible.
I love to ask people one question,
If money were no object what would you be doing?
If you didn’t have to worry about bills or any of the other societal pressures you feel, what would you be doing with your life? How would you be passing your time?
I’d be living somewhere in the Mediterranean, writing a book and learning how to cook from old ladies while marvelling at the language and way of life. It’s really that simple.
Is the money really worth it?
On average, we spend 9 hours at work per day. Add in 1 hour for getting ready and 2 more for commuting to and from work. Add on another 3 hours to wind down from work, which generally involves mindlessly eating dinner, watching Netflix, scrolling through Facebook for the 20-billionth time and counting down the hours until it’s time to do it all over again.
That’s roughly 15 hours a day of work related activity, multiply that by 5 days and we spend an average of 75 waking hours per week thinking about and doing things for a job that we fundamentally hate. Why? Because we want the new iPhone that we actually put on our credit card because we spent all our cash getting drunk on the weekend to de-stress from the week at work.
Does that sound as crazy to you as it does to me? If it doesn’t, well, that’s great. It means you’re happy and can continue on your way. But, if like me it makes you cringe then perhaps it’s time to seriously consider your path and adjust accordingly because wasting 75 hours doing something you hate when you could spend 75 hours doing something that makes your soul sing seems like a waste of a very short life.
What’s really holding you back?
Ok, so money is always the obvious answer, but if we dig a little deeper the answer is not money at all. It’s fear.
Years and years of experiences, stories, movies and books have moulded you into the person you are today and all of these things have laid the foundations of your belief systems which have subsequently become your reality.
Your reality is your part of the world, skewed and created to exactly what you want it to be. You see what you want to see, you control what you want to control (both consciously and subconsciously) and fear is your designated driver.
Fear can present itself in many different ways. Like the wolf from Little Red Riding Hood, it’s a master of disguise. Fear can be concerned for your welfare and can protect you from true physical harm and then suddenly it can throw off it’s knitted cardigan and become irrational with bare teeth and hostility.
We must learn to tell the difference between rational and irrational fear to truly set ourselves free and live the way we desire. This is definitely easier said than done I know, but one must try. You’re not special, everyone experiences fear the only difference is the way it’s managed.
If you fear that you are not good enough then work on convincing yourself that you are good enough.
If you fear that you won’t have enough money to feed yourself then learn to fish.
If you fear that you may fail then accept failure as part of the journey and have a backup plan.
Letting go of fear means letting go of irrational fear and wading through the mud even though you know you’re going to get dirty.
Know that you’ve got what it takes to chase your dreams
I once read something that Rachel Zoe, fashion designer and celebrity stylist had said in a magazine-
“Work like you’ve got $5.00 in your bank account”
What would you do if you only had $5.00 to your name? I know I would do anything! I would take any job and I would hustle to get ahead.
We are amazing and we are capable of so much- we just need to get out of our own way and stop being lazy. Push through your fears of not being good enough and chase down exactly what you want. Don’t make any more excuses and don’t bow down to the limiting beliefs you tell yourself.
If you want it then go get it.
Leader of the 9-5 corporate slugs (for now)
Denouncer of fear